"Just relax—what is the Lord telling you to do next?"
These simple words from my mentor have guided me countless times over the years. As someone who longs to be in control, fix every problem, and see what’s ahead, this has never come naturally to me!
But here’s the beauty: her advice is rarely Scripture-packed or theologically heavy—and that’s intentional. Her goal isn’t to press the “dos and don’ts” of the Bible but to remind me that God longs to partner with us in our walk. She encourages me to slow down, lean in, and learn to recognize His still, small voice and the gentle promptings of the Holy Spirit.
Leading with love, grace, and the hope of salvation through Jesus is of utmost importance in mentoring. But sometimes, you may sense God prompting you to lovingly guide her away from false teaching, misconceptions about who He is, or unwise choices. Here are some reminders and practical pointers to help you navigate the harder conversations with your mentee:
💝Girls need truth—even when it’s hard to hear. Truth rooted in Scripture, shaped by experience, and guided by the Holy Spirit clears muddy waters. In a world of fake news, gossip, and endless opinions, young women are pulled in every direction—yet their hearts long for truth that is steady and unshakable.
💝Girls need accountability. Living within God’s boundaries isn’t easy for any of us, which is why accountability matters at every age. Many young women lack stable support, and may not have believers walking with them in their faith. Accountability isn’t just biblical (Proverbs 27:17; Galatians 6:1–2)—it’s an act of love, choosing to “look out” for one another.
💝Girls need correction—when led by God. At times, the Lord may prompt you to address a mentee’s choices. When done in love and prayer, God honors your heart and her growth. Sometimes He calls us only to listen, other times to gently redirect her toward His truth.
💡So, how do we offer truth, provide accountability, and extend correction with care?
- Ask permission. Invite your mentee into the conversation by asking if she’s open to hearing your perspective or advice. This disarms defensiveness and empowers her with the choice to receive guidance.
- Partner in accountability. Suggest a mutual accountabilitymodel—reminding her that we all need people who lovingly “look out” for us. When you walk alongside her in this way, it shows humility and builds trust.
- Ask questions. If you don’t feel led to speak correction directly, thoughtful questions can open the door for God to do the work in her heart. Try asking, “What do you think God was teaching you through that decision?” or “What do you feel you could have done differently?” Sometimes gentle questions are the clearest path to Spirit-led conviction.
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